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The first day of school our professor introduced
himself and challenged us to get to know someone we
didn't already know. I stood up to look around when
a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around
to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at
me with a smile that lit up her entire being.
She said, "Hi handsome. my name is Rose. I'm eighty
seven years old. Can I give you a hug?"
I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of
course you may!" and she gave me a giant
squeeze. "Why are you in college at such a
young, innocent age?" I asked.
She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich
husband, get married, have a couple of children,
and then retire and travel."
"No seriously," I asked. I was curious
what may have motivated her to be taking on this
challenge at her age.
"I always dreamed of having a college education
and now I'm getting one!" she told me.
After class we walked to the student union
building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We
became instant friends. Every day for the
next three months we would leave class together and
talk non-stop. I was always mesmerized
listening to this "time machine" as she shared her
wisdom and experiences with me.
Over the course of the year, Rose became a
campus icon and easily made friends wherever she
went. She loved to dress up and she reveled
in the attention bestowed upon her from the other
students. She was living it up.
At the end of the semester we invited Rose to
speak at our football banquet and I'll never forget
what she taught us.
She was introduced and stepped up to the
podium. As she began to deliver her prepared
speech, she dropped her three-by-five cards on the
floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed,
she leaned into the microphone and simply said,
"I'm sorry. I'm so jittery. I gave up
beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me!
I'll never get my speech back in order so let me
just tell you what I know."
As we laughed she cleared her throat and
began.
"We do not stop playing because we are old; we
grow old because we stop playing. There are only
four secrets to staying young, being happy and
achieving success. "You have to laugh and
find humour every day. You've got to have a
dream. When you lose your dreams, you
die. We have so many people walking around
who are dead and don't even know it!
"There is a huge difference between growing
older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old
and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one
productive thing, you will turn twenty years old.
If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for
a year and never do anything I will turn
eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn't
take any talent or ability.
"The idea is to grow up by always finding the
opportunity in change."
"Have no regrets. The elderly usually don't have
regrets for what we did, but rather for things we
did not do. The only people who fear death
are those with regrets."
She concluded her speech by courageously singing
"The Rose." She challenged each of us to study the
lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.
At the year's end Rose finished the college
degree she had begun all those years ago. One
week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her
sleep.
Over two thousand college students attended her
funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who
taught by example that it's never too late to be
all you can possibly be.
Some say, "Love, it is a river that drowns
the tender reed,"
Some say, "Love, it is a razor that leaves your
soul to bleed."
Some say, "Love, it is a hunger, an endless aching
need."
I say, "Love, it is a flower, and you, its only
seed."
It's the heart afraid of breaking that never
learns to dance.
It's the dream afraid of waking that never takes a
chance.
It's the one who won't be taken who cannot seem to
give,
And the soul afraid of dying that never learns to
live.
When the night has been too lonely and the road
has been too long,
And you think that love is only for the lucky and
the strong,
Just remember, in the winter far beneath the bitter
snow,
Lies the seed that with the sun's love, in the
spring becomes the rose."
And unless you've made other plans, have a
wonderful life!
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