I've Learned That…
	you cannot make someone love you; all you can do is be someone who can be loved and the rest is up to them. no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back. it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts. you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes--after that, you'd better know something. you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do. it's not what happens to people that's important, it's what they do about it. you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life. no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides. it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be. it's a lot easier to react than it is to think. you should always leave loved ones with loving words; it may be the last time you see them. you can keep going long after you think you can't. we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel. either you control your attitude, or it controls you. regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades, and there had better be something else to take its place. heroes are the people who do what has to be done, when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. learning to forgive takes practice. there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it. money is a lousy way of keeping score. my best friend and I can do anything, or nothing ... and have the best time. sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be the ones to help you get back up. sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel. true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance--same goes for true love. just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, it doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had, and what you've learned from them, and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated. you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish; few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it'd be if they believed it. your family won't always be there for you; it may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you , love you and teach you to trust people again--families aren't biological. no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while, and you must forgive them for that. it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others; sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself. no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn't stop for your grief. our backgrounds and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become. sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides, even when I don't want to. just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other; and just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do. sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions. we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change. you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret; it could change your life forever. two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different. no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt... and you will hurt in the process. there are many ways of falling and staying in love. no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves get farther in life. no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most. your life can be changed in a matter of hours, by people who don't even know you. even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help. writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains. the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us. credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being. the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon. although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used. it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings, and standing up for what you believe. the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person. when you're in love, it shows. just one person saying to me, "You've made my day!" makes my day. I feel better about myself when I make others feel better about themselves. having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world. what we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal. one sincere apology is worth more than all the roses money can buy. words harshly spoken are as difficult to retrieve as feathers in a gale. being kind is more important than being right. you should never say no to a gift from a child. no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with. sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand. simple walks with my mother around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult. life is like a roll of toilet paper--the closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes. money doesn't buy class. it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular. once a relationship is over, if you experienced more smiles than tears, then it wasn't a waste of time. under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved. one shouldn't humiliate another person; always give him an honourable way to back down or out of something and still save face. if you are still talking about what you did yesterday, you haven't done much today. to ignore the facts does not change the facts. when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you. you view other people's children in a whole different light when you have some of your own. the older I get, the smarter my parents become. love, not time, heals all wounds. the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am. I always think of the right thing to say when it's too late. the fire of a past love will always burn with a small flame. even at the age of forty-two, you can still feel like a twelve year old child when your mother is talking to you. no matter what their ages or how far away they may be, you never stop wanting to keep a protective arm around your children. crumbs thrown my way should be gathered because they soon form a lovely, thick slice of life and memories. the kind of adults my children are now is directly related to the kind of children I continually told them they were. everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile. there's nothing sweeter than sleeping with your babies and feeling their breath on your cheeks. no one is perfect until you fall in love with them. life is tough, but I'm tougher. opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss. there is nothing better than my dog waiting for me on the front porch, wagging his tail when I get home. when you harbour bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere. I wish I could have told my brother that I love him one more time before he passed away. it is just as wrong to be rude to a child as to an adult; in fact, it may be more unforgivable. one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them. a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks. I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it. a peacock today may be a feather duster tomorrow. when your newly born grandchild holds your little finger in his little fist, that you're hooked for life. those who reach their goals too easily have aimed too low. everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it. stain resistant carpet will stain. it is best to give advice in only two circumstances:  when it is requested and when it is a life-threatening situation. a good friend is the one who tells you how you really look in your jeans. the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done. I should cherish all my memories, even the bad ones, for they are the "bricks and mortar" of who I am. - Authors unknown
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